Conjugial Love (Chadwick) n. 173

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173. (xv) The wife thus receives in herself an image of her husband, and consequently perceives, sees and feels his affections.

The reasons adduced above lead to the proof that wives receive into themselves what belongs to their husbands' wisdom; that is, what is proper to their souls and minds, and thus they make themselves wives instead of virgins. The reasons required for this conclusion are as follows:

(a) Woman was created out of man. (b) This engenders an inclination to unite herself and, as it were, to be reunited with her husband. (c) As a result and to effect that union with her partner a woman is by birth the love of her husband; and she becomes more and more the love of him by marriage, because then love constantly concentrates its thoughts on linking her husband with herself. (d) She is linked to her one and only man by the attention she pays to the desires of his life. (e) The linking is achieved by means of the spheres enveloping them and uniting them, all over and in detail, depending on the quality of conjugial love the wives possess, and at the same time depending on the quality of the wisdom receiving that love among the husbands. (f) Another linking is effected by means of the wives' making their husbands' strength their own. (g) It is plain from these facts that something of the husband is constantly being copied into the wife, and it is imprinted on her as if it were hers.

From all these considerations it follows that an image of the husband is formed in the wife, which allows her to perceive, see and feel in herself what goes on in her husband, and thus, so the speak, to feel herself in him. The perception comes from communicating, the seeing from looking, and the feeling from touching. The wife feels her love being received by the husband by touching with her palms his cheeks, arms, hands and chest. This was disclosed to me by the three wives in the hall and the seven wives in the rose-garden, as described in the accounts of experiences [155bis, 208, 293, 294].


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